Although long gone are the days when sex talk was considered taboo, there are still some topics that we can’t always openly discuss with our partners out of fear of leaving the wrong impression. Take adult toys as an example. While they’re nothing new and many have resorted to using them, there’s still mainly some association with masturbation and solo fun.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. Whether you’re just past the honeymoon phase or have been married for some time, the right kind of toy can amp up the heat between the sheets for both of you. The secret is getting your partner on board and choosing the best option for you out of a myriad of adult bedroom toys available at the sex shops.
Don’t know where to begin? Consider these suggestions to partner up for some duo pleasure with the perfect aids.
Open Conversation is the Way
If you’re dealing with a shy partner, or you’re the shy one but are willing to spice things up to keep the flame burning, the key is to be open about it. Aids like sex toys aren’t something to be afraid of – what’s more, they’re designed for pleasure and making things more interesting in bed.
Be sure to point out that the introduction of adult bedroom toys is a strategy that would benefit both of you, so your partner would understand you enjoy making love to them and would love to enhance this experience as much as possible to make even more out of it, and not that they need help from toys to assist you with reaching the big O.
If bringing it up while you’re already having some sexy time isn’t easy on you, try mentioning it by sharing a fantasy, or when you’re outside the bedroom. Why not throw it in while they’re at work with a little sexting to make them burn with desire for you all day long? While you’re at it, you might also send them a hot photo of you in lingerie, or maybe even your birthday suit if you’re comfortable with it. You’d be amazed by the result.
Take Your Pick Together
Toys may seem intimidating to a beginner, but there’s a whole world of possibilities, and bondage is just a tiny bit that you don’t necessarily have to be into to try. Things are always better when shared when you’re in a relationship, so why not let the bedroom fun start with the conversation and the shopping experience too?
If you’re not bold enough to go to actual stores just yet, worry not, there are plenty of adult toy options to explore online. As you browse through the vast collections on the internet, you can get an idea of the kind of designs there are, what their prices are, as well as what you two would most be willing to try out.
There are women’s toys that can help with the big O, same as there are men’s toys that can help a guy last longer. For double the fun, there are also double-ended choices you can enjoy together and get some vaginal and prostate stimulation without having to waste some of your precious energy on working with the hands for too long.
There are even some advanced options of pleasure toys that are battery and app-controlled, so your pleasure could be just a button away. Whichever your choice, however, remember to be respectful of each other’s comfort with the likes and dislikes. While you’re at it, keep notes of your partner’s likes and dislikes because you can use this knowledge to your advantage later on. More on that below!
Surprise Your Partner
Okay, this one is better left for once you’ve already had the talk, and decided to go for sex toys online together. After learning more about what your partner is into, and what they expect out of this bedroom spicing solution, you can go to the next level and get them a surprise toy. Knowing you have the key to turn him or her on is part of the strategy that helps intimacy grow.
Whether it’s something related only to their pleasure or something you two could share at the same time, it’s bound to get the two of you more connected. To make things more exciting, why not also do a gift exchange? This could be your unique Christmas gift for him/her!
Once you unwrap this excitement, and take it to the bedroom, be sure to read up on the instructions to know how to use the toys properly. Keep in mind that it’s normal for the first time not to go exactly as planned or expected, as the toy is new after all, so don’t get disappointed right away – give it another go. And, don’t forget to add a safe word in case you take things too far. This would ensure you both stay as comfortable and pleased as you should!
